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Stefan Kelly's avatar

I think both the most insightful and difficult problem Maslow came across was the Jonah Complex, i.e. the fact that barely anyone seems to actually try to self-actualise. That fear of your own power to fully control your life.

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love letters bulletin's avatar

Perceptiveness vs Intellectualised Introspection -- a super useful distinction for me in my current reality. Thanks Henrik!

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Christina Lurking's avatar

This is interesting. It strikes me that the kind of in-touch-with-reality perception you’re aiming for is a kind of Aristotelian mean, because somewhere past the point where you see enough details to keep you from living too much in your head, you get into territory where you’re sorting through an incapacitating number of details all the time. ADHD and autism tend in that direction. With autism it’s common to have a sensitive sensory system and a tendency to notice details first and see what they add up to, rather than starting with the big picture and seeing what it predicts. See for example (and citations) https://autisticphd.com/theblog/what-is-bottom-up-thinking-in-autism/, which made my head explode when I read it because I never realized that outlining before researching actually works for how some people think, rather than being a style of speculative brainstorming that teachers like.

Also, we notice and track more unconsciously than we’ve consciously and rationally put together, so another angle on the problem of perceptiveness is about tapping into that unconscious layer and bringing it into fuller consciousness. Strange to say, but in my experience, divergent details don’t have to be certifiably real to pull you back into the flow of your own life and out of intellectualized introspection. They just need to jog you out of the lens you’re stuck in, and then other things you’d semi-noticed but screened out start to rush in. Which is part of why Tarot cards are awesome.

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ave ̮̈'s avatar

that last part is super resonant with me. i have adhd, & i relate to that “stuck” feeling. i also have an appreciation for tarot cards and astrology. not because i believe in pseudoscience, but because it can be an actually useful tool to redirect and be more perceptive with myself (used in moderation, of course)

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Jesse's avatar

Great piece Henrik!

Imo, most of my most egregious misperceptions comes from some emotion within, so being aware of your own biases may be more important than training your sensitivity/external perception.

Because we can't directly perceive, we need a lens to look through the world. Each lens obscures and shapes the world in different ways, and the best way to account for that is to see the world through different lenses. That's why identity is so dangerous - it's locking in a specific lens.

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OneThousand&OneLetters's avatar

That was a fun essay to read! The Danish conversation was particularly interesting to me as a Swedish speaker... It reminds me of a brilliant book called "Sea of Poppies" by Amitav Ghosh, which takes the reader on a journey like this, of not quite fully understanding, but sort of getting the gist! A great essay which breaks it down is "Sea of Poppies and the Possibilities of Mistranslation" by Aruna D'Souza.

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Henrik Karlsson's avatar

Cool! Leaving the Atocha Station by Ben Lerner has some really nice descriptions of this feeling when the narrator is learning Spanish.

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OneThousand&OneLetters's avatar

Nice, will check it out.

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surya yalamanchili's avatar

Sadly this is why kids who grow up in a chaotic/unstable home can be very sensitive/perceptive. They are thrown into the deep-end of the pool and they had to learn to survive by being sharply attuned.

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Anne Marie Basquin's avatar

Yes. Early trauma, and trauma more generally, can transform your default to a heavily negative leaning one. So you have these incredibly sensitive and perceptive people (myself included) who can often become locked in a prediction mindset of negativity, often without any idea of this tendency.

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surya yalamanchili's avatar

same, friend. <3

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Randall Hayes's avatar

At a more emotional than perceptual level, but also a good essay.

https://www.lionsroar.com/four-points-for-letting-go-bardo/

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Asaph's avatar

Hello Henrik! Thank you for writing this piece—I am really loving this series so far. I resonated with the idea that you can gain a lot of insight about the world by acknowledging the details that don’t make sense to you. This seems like one of the benefits of cultivating a reverence for honesty.

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Franco Wong's avatar

I am applying this way of thinking as a parent.

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Shadow Rebbe's avatar

Tell me more!

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Chad Malkinson's avatar

How about you perceive the stink from my hole as you swallow my shit?

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Elsbethk's avatar

This links to R.S. Thomas of the beautiful poems. He said: 'If I’m going to be remembered at all, I suppose it’ll be on the strength of a few poems that I’ve written. I hope other people will benefit from my example of one who loved to be in the open air, loved the things of this Earth, and was given the ability to both hear and see them.' From the Observer article on him.

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Catherine Armagost's avatar

Very intense

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Tony's avatar

Check out John Vervaeke's work for more on this. Awakening from the meaning crisis and After Socrates.

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Matej Sarlija's avatar

Alt quote from photography (Winogrand) ~ "I photograph to see what the world looks like photographed."

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Mark Neznansky's avatar

This reminds me a series of posts of mine, which presents what you denote as ‘perceptiveness’ as a constant, personal attribute — one that is immune to intentionality, though I suppose that your suggestions could be employed to influence it. Perhaps you'd be interested in giving it a look. I happen to use the term paranoia there too, and in the context of misunderstanding a foreign language, albeit not in the condensed version linked to below, but one link deeper:

https://markneznansky.substack.com/p/novelty-perception-condensed

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Parvathy's avatar

I love your writing and your works! (I even quoted you in one of mine https://parvathysarat.substack.com/p/mating-to-want-more-from-people-and).

"If you are too constrained by what you think is going on to notice what is actually going on" - isn't the former anxiety, where you get caught up in your head? It feels like it's not always a choice

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